Thomas isn’t very good at communicating what he needs. The truth is, he puts things off until the last minute then tells you in a way you have to guess…kind of like fill in the blanks. And I guess maybe he was communicating everything to Juergen, and I didn’t get told? That is the problem with being busy. Thomas and Juergen are both busy! But Thomas has a Hochschule graduation tomorrow. Hochschule is the lowest level of German high school. He will be moving on to Realschule next year. I am not really considering this as anything special. It’s like finishing the 11th grade, and moving on to your senior year. Most people don’t have a big party for this occasion. But a few kids in Thomas’ class are finishing school now. For them it is graduation. So today I have to go buy Thomas something new to wear, and new shoes. It is a big deal he has done so well in school. He moved to Germany when he was almost 7 years old. He had to learn German and English. I guess I just take it for granted, but he is smart. Philip struggles to learn. He will most likely never graduate from Hochschule. If he graduates from anything, we will party! I guess it is a matter of expectations. Both of my boys are gifted in their own way. I am sure they will both find their place in this world. And I guess I’m taking Thomas shopping today!
Yes of course he needs new shoes...what was I thinking? Sometimes I really feel like this is not my culture. Perhaps allot is not communicated because everyone just assumes you already know what to expect. But we don’t have 3 different levels of high school in America. And I don’t know what is appropriate in this situation. In Germany they make a very big deal out of the first day of school. But when Juergen finished his PHD, he went to some office in a basement of the University to pick up the certificate (no ceremony). And now Thomas is finishing this stage of his education, but moving forward. And there is a big party. But I feel like the party is premature. But maybe that is because I’m American, and I just don’t get the culture?