A stressful way

I had a really hard morning. I had to take Philip to a Psychological evaluation. She ran some tests on Philip to try to determine what sort of learning problems he has, and how far behind he is. She first interviewed me about what we are doing, and how he is doing in school and where he would go to school next fall. I'm sure I came across defensive and frustrated. They all want to send him to a special school for learning disabled kids. I don't want him labeled dumb, and stuck in a school that just goes slower. If he goes to a special school, I want them to address his special need, not just go slow! He has real problems with visual processing. I want him to get the help he needs to keep up with his class. They treat me like I'm not thinking straight. Like I'm in denial. I'm not denying he has learning problems...I just want to treat the problems. Slow is not the answer. They are worried about what it does to him when he can not keep up, but what does it do to his self worth when he goes to the school for "slow" kids? He is not dumb! He can learn!!! He needs real help! I don't want an excuse for not learning, "poor Philip, he just didn't have the ability, it was not his fault"! I want a bridge to learning. If he lacks the "natural" tools to learn, why can't we just creatively give him a helping hand to learn. I don't want a different goal, I just want extra help towards the same goal!