Thomas was adopted when he was almost 7 years old. He was treated like a spoiled baby until we adopted him. We have been firm with him. We don't allow him to act like a baby anymore. He has grown a lot. He isn't very good at making friends. He is however desperate for friends outside the family. That is normal for a boy almost 10 years old. He has made friends with Philips old best friend. That's OK with Philip. The real problem is Thomas is only the back up friend for this other boy. I call him the weekend friend. When friend number one isn't free, Thomas gets to play. It is like a love triangle. Thomas puts up with it because he doesn't have any other friends. I personally hate watching it! I wish there were more boys he could play with. He(Thomas) gets grumpy and mean because he feels so sad. I think it all has to do with this wanting a friend, and feeling like you are only the 2ND choice! Nicole also had this problem when she was Thomas’ age. Then God gave her a great "best" friend. It was such a great gift. Thomas needs a best friend...not a hand me down friend.
Thomas was adopted when he was almost 7 years old. He was treated like a spoiled baby until we adopted him. We have been firm with him. We don't allow him to act like a baby anymore. He has grown a lot. He isn't very good at making friends. He is however desperate for friends outside the family. That is normal for a boy almost 10 years old. He has made friends with Philips old best friend. That's OK with Philip. The real problem is Thomas is only the back up friend for this other boy. I call him the weekend friend. When friend number one isn't free, Thomas gets to play. It is like a love triangle. Thomas puts up with it because he doesn't have any other friends. I personally hate watching it! I wish there were more boys he could play with. He(Thomas) gets grumpy and mean because he feels so sad. I think it all has to do with this wanting a friend, and feeling like you are only the 2ND choice! Nicole also had this problem when she was Thomas’ age. Then God gave her a great "best" friend. It was such a great gift. Thomas needs a best friend...not a hand me down friend.
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